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Are you willing to try a few simple things to change your life forever?  First, decide your ultimate goal in life.  This is one sentence that sums up where you invest most of your energy, time, resources and focus.   This should be closely tied to a God-given gift, talent or area where you excel.  It’s a dream but, more importantly it’s THE dream for which you are willing to sacrafice.

Charmed living is filled will satisfaction, peace, positive influences, love and joy.

Charmed living is the ultimate of success.   And, you deserve it.

There’s a picture a few blog lines down this web page of a beautiful Chapel that sits in southern Arizona.  It bakes in 115 degree weather and keeps out the monsoonal rains as the fall season is ushered in each year.  In winter, the Chapel– located in the high dessert– even withstands below freezing temps for weeks at a time.  Yet, its beauty and purpose– remain untouched, preserved… indeed made stronger by the exhaustive journey.

That’s a metaphor for each of us and the lives we lead.  The world, people we come in contact with… wear on us like seasons of extreme weather.  But, if we choose to hang on we will be made stronger.  We will experience true peace and appreciation for life’s moments of joy.  We will be blessed.  Our lives will be transformed by the journey.   We will discover the serenity of Charmed Living.   Here’s how you can get there:

Key #1:  Praise more often than you criticize.  This will attract all sorts of people who will gladly help you along your journey.  And, it will allow you to leave behind a legacy of successful leadership.

Key#2:   Don’t settle for people who do not have your best interest at heart.  Some behaviors give us hints about the intentions of those close to us. For example, your friend gossips to you about others.  This is not good for you to be exposed to.  We are weak… love to know about other people’s business.  But, unless you can help the subject of gossip, why tear them down?  If your so-called friend “confidently” tells you negative or bad news, THEY WILL GOSSIP ABOUT YOU, TOO!  It’s inevitable and it is poison.  Just one way to tell whether they have your best interest at heart.

It’s all to help you crack open abundance like you’ve never dreamed!   Remember there will be 6 pics… and, I’ve found there are very few things in life that are truly random!

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Acadia National Park in Bar Harbor, Maine is the first place on the continental U.S. to see the sun rise.  Cadillac Mountain at oh-dark-30 (that’s what I call the wee morning hour!)

Describing it would be futile.  You’ll have to crest the summit on the mountain at 3 a.m. to catch the sun coming up… when it’s good and ready.  And, when you stop clutching for breath after the climb… no doubt, you’ll clutch at your heart and wipe away a tear at God’s beauty unfolding before your eyes.

Actually, I’ve always been a sunset kind of a girl.  But, a few years back some friends insisted on hiking the best trails in Maine.  My goodness, we could still be hiking today… cuz there are tons of great ones in that state.  Hiking to me is like oxygen.  The burn you feel in your thighs and knees and ankles and really any where you can feel pain… let’s you know you must be right a around the bend from the next awesome vista.

Every hiker knows… the climb is always hardest near the summit.  Just like life.  That’s why we can’t give up… when pursuing what’s right and what’s right for us.  There’s a difference you know.  ”What’s right” is that path that very few people stay on… so it will be steep and lonely.  And, “what’s right for each of us” is that personally journey of dreams, commitments, victories, tragedies… all in the name of living with purpose.

No, climbing to a point to see the sun peak into America won’t be easy (unless you cheat and drive the scenic park route to the lookout post with the telescope!)  Don’t cheat.  Don’t even think about it.  Do the work that gets you in position to see the light and glisten from your own work’s perspiration in that golden hue.  Soak up the victory of having reached the summit of your own will, might and determination.  

And, so it goes whether you’re hiking or just getting your day.  Do what you were meant to do… live out your purpose.  And, don’t give up… you will be blessed for it.  But, you must stick with it.

You deserve the best.  So, in your own way… at your own pace… be the best.

Back from maternity leave… with a lot to say…

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Someone I met today…

Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo, author of 72 books including, “24 Hour Miracle” and “Be the Best” cuts to chase when it comes to where our nation is today.  He told me that we should not dispair if we have lost in this economy. He preached a bit… that if you plant the seeds of a purposeful man or woman during this winter season of our history… then, the warmer times will yield an abundant harvest of prosperity in your life.

 Kinda hard to imagine for some who would seem to have lost it all– home, job, successful marriage… peace.

Pastor Matthew told me our nation is in a season of putting the Seed into the ground and the ground must be cut up, plowed, hurt in order for that Seed to catch hold. 

HERE’S WHERE I’VE TAKEN HIS METAPHOR…  based on the times when darkness visited my life:   

Once the Seed is planted, the rain must come in droves…  in order to nurish the Seed.  And, then we must wait… wait… wait.   We must wait beyond our comfort zone.  We must wait with dignity, integrity and love in our hearts.  We must be the best we can be while we wait.  And, we must not ask why over and over… or how much longer it will be.

Wait.

And, then when the Lord is ready… the sun will move across the sky… our Seed now peeking above ground soaking up the glow and new nutrients.

Wait.

Harvest, can you hear us?  We await you.

From the time we get out of bed until we catch ourselves in the act of griping…about 75% of us will complain aloud or in our minds about something at least ten times.  And, on some days, a whopping 30% of us will do this 40 or more times before someone else tells us to stop!

Whew– that’s a lot of energy devoted to one purpose.  This is all according to a non-scientific study on the matter for a speech I gave a couple of years ago entitled, “Gripe all you want but, it won’t help you!”

 Upon waking in the morning perhaps you’ve uttered a few of these popular survey responses:  ”I’m still tired”  ” I never seem to get enough sleep” “I don’t feel like dealing with the people on my job today” “Wish it were the weekend, Mondays  bite.”  ”The floor’s cold.”  ”I’m fat… but, I’m still hungry” “My wife’s snoring kept me up all night” “Why can’t I win the lottery so I don’t have to work at all?!”  ”It’s too cold to take the dog outside”  ”Maybe I’ll call in sick and take a break from my job, which I can’t stand.”

These thoughts are fairly benign.  Some of you flat out moan in the morning.  Why?  Probably because no one ever told us just how damaging the act of complaining really is.  It sets us up to do the one thing that is the opposite of success:  To complain is to usher in mediocrity.  When we complain and don’t follow through to change what we’re griping about… we settle.  We settle  for that job that makes us want to call in sick everyday.  We settle for those bad habits that lead us to overeat and hate the face we see first thing in the morning mirror.  We settle for thinking about a problem rather than solving it.

And, when we settle enough times we take negativity to a new level:  Resenting others who have what we think we deserve!

Wow, with just a little morning gripe, we’ve gone from negative behavior, to settling for less, to being down right hateful.  Surely, these actions will not grow success in our lives.  In fact, they may be the very reason why some people never seem to get ahead.  

Winners don’t like to hang around complainers… their negativity is a distraction. Business leaders and managers don’t like complainers on their team… the reduced productivity of complainers is expensive.  

It’s quite simple:  If you’re complaining then you’re not doing what you could to make yours or someone else’s situation or project better.  

Complainers do tend to accomplish a few things, though.  Found out in my speech survey, that they tend to gossip more and exercise less.  They tend to have fewer healthy opinions of others and an elevated opinion of themselves.  And, they tend to gripe even when things are going well.  Don’t know all the medical or scientific connections among these behaviors.  But, it’s just a guess– complainers are addicted to drama.   

So, you may be wondering– why did Harris have to give up Complaining for Lent?  Because like everybody else, it sometimes takes me a few grievances to say to myself, “Woah! Stop that!”  Reached that point around the beginning of this Lenten season and decided to go Gripe-free.  I’d tell you how it’s going… BUT, THEN I’D BE COMPLAINING-HA!

More free time, better night’s sleep and more patience with all those around me since I stopped complaining.  Those are reasos enough for me to give it up for 40 days or so.  How about you? Want to join me on this journey ’til Easter?  And, beyond?!

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Not long ago Jon Stewart of  ”Daily Show” fame… picked on me for his “Moment of Zen”.  He told his viewers something about me looking so happy on the air when reporting…. happy stories. Well, duh.  He was making fun.  But, honestly, it was a hoot to have my friends emailing and telling me about it.  I didn’t actually see it when it aired ‘cuz I don’t too get his late night show.  My point?  He was right– about one thing.  We should all have a moment of Zen.

A girlfriend of mine is an emergency room doc.  We try to vacation together at least once a year… even now that I’m a mom.  She’s one of my favorite people and our husbands are best friends. 

Truth is, I’d like to be more like Doc Lori.  Somehow she really unplugs… not just on vacation but, whenever it’s her time to chill.  She really does disconnect from the phone/pager/bbrry in her life.  Even if it’s just for a few hours… she can escape the world’s distractions and negativity.

So, why can’t I?  Seems like no matter how hard I try… turning off the world is impossible.  Just this past weekend… went to a beautiful lake and park in our neighborhood.  An hour and a half to have fun with my family and take in the fresh, warming pre-spring air. 

What did I do?  Put my bbrry on vibrate and attended to it EVERY time it buzzed… you know, just to see if it was important.  Mind you even my friend who saves lives takes 90 minutes to herself over the course of a weekend.  Heck we all have to shower!

Finally came to a head this morning… as I was making breakfast for my 2 year old and saw she was “air thumbing”.  She was pretending to be on HER blackberry.  Of course, she doesn’t have one.

I stopped dipping the bread into the eggwhites and spices… took a deep breath, picked her up and held her in my arms.  Had plenty of time before the day began to gaze out the window together at the birds greeting the morning.

A moment of happiness and peace before the clutter and chatter of the world beyond our front door got their chance to distract me.  A time to smile at the happy story of birds landing on our back fence to see a mom and baby… both in footed pj’s!

Be sure to take your own moment of Zen… you just might make the “Daily Show”.  Of course, as a rule… I try not to make that my goal.